D/s, Holiday Blues and a Pandemic

On today’s episode of DISIRabilityALT, I thought we’d talk about our power-exchange relationships, getting through 2020 and getting through the holiday season especially if you have experienced depression or grief during this time of year. I also wanted to talk about how we are all struggling with social distancing now as we’re coming into the holidays in 2020 with the pandemic. We will talk about the importance of maintaining your D/s dynamic at this time and how to do so. 

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”D/s, Holiday Blues and a Pandemic, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a stock photo of a snowman with a sad face.]

Full transcript of this episode can be found on the podcast link. Visit DISIRabilityALT Episode 17.

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

A Chat with Pup Star Orion

In episode 16 of DISIRabilityALT, I have the opportunity to interview Pup Star Orion.

Pup Star Orion (he/his/him) is queer trans genderfluid disabled switch and leather bull terrier puppy. Originally born in Santa Ana, El Salvador, Orion was raised in East Hollywood. 

He is the Social Outreach Coordinator for Obsidian LA, a qtbipoc volunteer run kink and education group.

Orion is the LA Pup 2020-21, happily living as an ambassador for not just human pets but trans and gender variant human pets as well. 

An educator, Orion teaches everything pet play, including dark pet play, and how intersectional identities affect pet spaces. He also teaches how to navigate sex and kink with disabled and chronically ill bodies through his lens as someone who lives with chronic pain. 

A well-known exhibitionist, when he isn’t volunteering, it’s common to find him under the boots of or attempting to take the fist of your local queer cutie. 

In today’s episode, Orion talks about his experiences as a QTBIPOC disabled pup, and what lead him to his identity as a puppy. He talks about accessibility in the scene for QTBIPOC and disabled folx. He’ll describe some heavy impact scenes he has enjoyed and also discusses the beauty and strength of kinky disabled folx. I cant wait for you to hear this episode.

PupStarOrion can be found on Facebook, Instagram, FetLife and PuppySpace @PupStarOrion. His twitter is NSFW. Follow him to find out about his class and new social/support group called “Chronically Kinky”.

If you are QTBIPOC, follow Obsidian_LA on social media or visit their website Obsidian-LA.com

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”A Chat with PupStarOrion,(he/him/his) a disabled QTBIPOC and LA Pup 2020-21, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a photo of PupStarOrion in a leather harness with a red bandana and his collar around his neck, holding his pup mask.]

Full transcript of this episode is also available.

https://disirabilityalt.castos.com/episodes/a-chat-with-pup-star-orion-a-disabled-qtbipoc-and-pup-la-2020-21

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Communication Do’s and Don’ts

In Episode 15 of DISIRabilityALT, I thought we could talk about some Communication Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to alternative lifestyles. We are going to talk about Do’s and Don’t’s from the beginning of messaging someone on social media, to negotiating a BDSM scene, to entering a D/s relationship and lastly how to handle a D/s breakup. The question I ask you this week is “What communication Do’s and Don’ts would you recommend? What did I leave out?” Please share your thoughts with me. Feel free to comment on this post.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a light brown background, there is the following text “Episode 15 Communication Do’s and Don’ts” Underneath is a photo of a Do and Don’ts checklist with lightbulbs surrounding it. The text “with angela car (she/her) 18+ is on the left]

Full transcript of this episode is also available.


©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

My Diaper is Not Sexy, but I Still Am

In episode 14 of DISIRabilityALT, I start off by talking openly about my feelings around being a disabled woman who has to wear adult diapers due to neurogenic bladder and bowel. Then we will focus on the topic of disability fetishes, devoteeism and disability. I will share my thoughts and feelings on fetishes and devotees and hope you will share your thoughts about them with me.

At the end of every episode, I will be asking a question for you to consider. Today’s question is: How do you feel about disability fetishes? Have you come across people with this fetish or have you come across devotees? Are you comfortable with being around people who have this particular fetish? Please share in the comments section below.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a light orange background, there is the following text in white letters “My Diaper is Not Sexy, but I Still Am” Underneath is a photo of a pink pair of panties next to a diaper in a dark blue background. Underneath is the text “with angela car (she/her) 18+.]

Full transcription of each episode is also available.

Visit: https://disirabilityalt.castos.com/episodes/episode-14-my-diaper-is-not-sexy-but-i-still-am for this episode.

Let’s Talk Books: “Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives”

A new series on the DISIRabilityALT podcast has just been published called “Let’s talk Books!” These can be books on BDSM. These can be books on sexuality. These could be books on disability. Today’s book is going to be about all three.

In this episode, I am going to discuss my favorite book on this subject. I’ve mentioned this book a few times on this show already. It is called “Kneeling in Spirit.  Disabled Submissives” and it is edited by Raven Kaldera. Raven Kaldera has authored 42 books on many topics including M/s and Power Exchange, Spirituality and Disabilities. Links are below for Raven’s author page on Amazon and his disability focused books through Alfred Press. 

Amazon link for Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3ARaven+Kaldera&s=relevancerank&text=Raven+Kaldera&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1

 https://alfredpress.com/category/disability/

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a blue background on the left, there is the following text in white letters “Let’s Talk Books “Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives”. On the right, there is a photo of Angela sitting in a red chair reading with a purple background, with her face covered by the book cover of Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives.]

Full transcript of this episode is available. Listen to this episode and/or read the transcript at the link below.

https://disirabilityalt.castos.com/player/260206

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Episode 11 available now. Coming Out Kinky with Medical Professionals

In Episode 11 of DISIRabilityALT, we’re going to focus on Coming Out Kinky with Medical Professionals. We’re going to discuss the following questions. Why do we want to come out with Medical Professionals? Which Medical Professionals do we want to come out to? What are our fears or concerns about coming out? How do we go about coming out? And then what happens next? Dealing with the aftermath or what happens after we come out to our Medical Professionals. I will share my experiences of coming out with Medical Professionals with you. Please share your thoughts about this topic with me by visiting http://www.DISIRability.com.

Episode Cover Image: [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text in white letters “Episode 11. Coming Out Kinky with Medical Professionals”. On the right, there is a photo of  two hands holding a EKG graph with a heart in the middle. Underneath is the 18+ symbol and text, Angela Car (she/her]

© DiSIRability, Angela Car 2020

You’re disabled. You must be an angel.

At the end of every episode of DISIRabilityALT, I’ll be posting a question for you to consider.

In episode 10, I chat with comedian and disabled anti-hero Amin Lakhani (He/Him). Amin described how society tends to look at those of us with disabilities as if we’re angels and can do no wrong. How have you experienced this phenomenon? I know I have. I have experienced it when I became sexual active. I experienced it when I got a tattoo, and I experienced it when I came out as kinky.

Have you experienced that in the kink world as well as the vanilla world? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences around this topic. Go to DISIRabilityALT.com, that’s D I S I R ability.com and share your thoughts with me.

You can follow DISIRabilityALT on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts, Spotify and Stitcher.

Image description: [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a dark green background, there is the following text in white letters “Have people ever treated you like “you must be an angel” and you can do no wrong just because you have a disability? with angela car, (she/her), 18+”]

A Chat with Amin Lakhani (He/Him) Comedian and Disabled Anti-Hero. Episode 10 of DISIRabilityALT

In this episode, I had a great discussion with Amin Lakhani (He/Him). Amin is a comedian, writer, and disabled anti-hero. He was born with a neuromuscular condition called Charcot-Marie-Tooth syndrome, which causes his muscles to atrophy. He has used a power chair since the age of 15. He gained internet notoriety as The Dating Coach on Wheels. He now shares his life lessons & dark humor online, on podcasts and other places. He also mentions the movie “Secretary” from 2002 directed by Steven Shainberg and written by Erin Cressida Wilson, which is a must see for anyone interested in BDSM!

Amin can be found at datingcoachonwheels.com or on Instagram at datingcoachonwheels.  

DISIRabiltyALT can also be found on Apple podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or Stitcher.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a dark green background, there is the following text in white letters “A Chat with Amin Lakhani, (He/Him), Comedian and Disabled Anti-Hero. 18+”. On the right, there is a photo of Amin, a man in a power wheelchair and green in shirt in front of French chateau with green shutters.]


©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

In This Life and All Hereafter

Episode 8 of DISIRability ALT on Cartaking, Loss and Grief is available now!

For today’s episode, we’re going to talk about a difficult topic. Most shows on alternative relationships talk about the fun aspects. Today, we are going to talk about something that many long-term alternative relationships will face at some point. Today, we are going to address caretaking, grief and loss. Join Angela Car as she shares her story of changing caretaking roles, and shares her experience with grief and anticipatory grief.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a tan background, there is the writing “Caretaking, Grief and Loss”. On the left-hand side, there is the text: in Alt relationships. With angela car [she/her] 18+.  On the right, there is a photo of Angela’s memorial tattoo which states “In this life and all hereafter”, which were in her husband’s wedding vows to her.]

Listen or Read the Full transcript of this episode at this link:

http://disirabilityalt.castos.com


©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Peeling Back Your Layers Episode 8

Episode 8 of DISIRabilityALT is available now!

For today’s episode, we’re going to talk about vulnerability and transparency in alternative relationships. We’ll talk about communication, opening up to new partners, or “peeling back the layers of the onion”. We’ll share about baggage that we bring with us to our relationships, and we explore the question “How do we talk with our partners about our disability and our medical issues?”

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a light purple background, there is the writing “Peeling Back Your Layers. On the left-hand side, there is the text: Transparency and Vulnerability in ALT Relationships. 18+.  On the right, there is a photo of the layers on an onion in the shape of a human head. Under the photo it states “Angela Car (she/her)”.]

Full transcript of the show is available at http:disirabilityalt.castos.com

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©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020