Who is going to The Thrive Conference?

Sir and I will be among the many presenters at The Thrive Conference next weekend. (April 23-25th). The Thrive Conference is all about BDSM and Mental Health.

Go to ThriveVirtualCon.com/register to sign up! ASL Interpreters will be available. Thank you to Devyn Stone and PragmaticKink for organizing this event! We are so looking forward to this!

A Chat with Pup Star Orion

In episode 16 of DISIRabilityALT, I have the opportunity to interview Pup Star Orion.

Pup Star Orion (he/his/him) is queer trans genderfluid disabled switch and leather bull terrier puppy. Originally born in Santa Ana, El Salvador, Orion was raised in East Hollywood. 

He is the Social Outreach Coordinator for Obsidian LA, a qtbipoc volunteer run kink and education group.

Orion is the LA Pup 2020-21, happily living as an ambassador for not just human pets but trans and gender variant human pets as well. 

An educator, Orion teaches everything pet play, including dark pet play, and how intersectional identities affect pet spaces. He also teaches how to navigate sex and kink with disabled and chronically ill bodies through his lens as someone who lives with chronic pain. 

A well-known exhibitionist, when he isn’t volunteering, it’s common to find him under the boots of or attempting to take the fist of your local queer cutie. 

In today’s episode, Orion talks about his experiences as a QTBIPOC disabled pup, and what lead him to his identity as a puppy. He talks about accessibility in the scene for QTBIPOC and disabled folx. He’ll describe some heavy impact scenes he has enjoyed and also discusses the beauty and strength of kinky disabled folx. I cant wait for you to hear this episode.

PupStarOrion can be found on Facebook, Instagram, FetLife and PuppySpace @PupStarOrion. His twitter is NSFW. Follow him to find out about his class and new social/support group called “Chronically Kinky”.

If you are QTBIPOC, follow Obsidian_LA on social media or visit their website Obsidian-LA.com

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a red background, there is the following text ”A Chat with PupStarOrion,(he/him/his) a disabled QTBIPOC and LA Pup 2020-21, with Angela Car (she/her) 18+). On the right, there is a photo of PupStarOrion in a leather harness with a red bandana and his collar around his neck, holding his pup mask.]

Full transcript of this episode is also available.

https://disirabilityalt.castos.com/episodes/a-chat-with-pup-star-orion-a-disabled-qtbipoc-and-pup-la-2020-21

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

I am Thankful Today and Everyday!

2020 has been quite a year, but I still have many things to be grateful for. I share my list below. Happy Thanksgiving everyone! What are you thankful for today?

  1. My Health
  2. My Partner/Sir who loves me, protects me and brings humor to my life.
  3. My cats who make me smile every day.
  4. Friends who are my chosen family including those we have spent socially distanced picnics with this year.
  5. Technology to stay connected. We are having Thanksgiving virtually today with our families.
  6. The opportunity to cook my first Thanksgiving Day Turkey today.
  7. My 12-step programs which bring me healthier coping mechanisms and help me stay focused on today.
  8. I got a power wheelchair so I can have less pain from walking and more freedom.
  9. My growing relationship with my little brother in our adult lives.
  10. The ability to do create content from home and do something I am passionate about.
  11. A comfortable home to quarantine in.
  12. All of you who have followed and supported my goals!

Communication Do’s and Don’ts

In Episode 15 of DISIRabilityALT, I thought we could talk about some Communication Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to alternative lifestyles. We are going to talk about Do’s and Don’t’s from the beginning of messaging someone on social media, to negotiating a BDSM scene, to entering a D/s relationship and lastly how to handle a D/s breakup. The question I ask you this week is “What communication Do’s and Don’ts would you recommend? What did I leave out?” Please share your thoughts with me. Feel free to comment on this post.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a light brown background, there is the following text “Episode 15 Communication Do’s and Don’ts” Underneath is a photo of a Do and Don’ts checklist with lightbulbs surrounding it. The text “with angela car (she/her) 18+ is on the left]

Full transcript of this episode is also available.


©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Let’s Talk Books: “Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives”

A new series on the DISIRabilityALT podcast has just been published called “Let’s talk Books!” These can be books on BDSM. These can be books on sexuality. These could be books on disability. Today’s book is going to be about all three.

In this episode, I am going to discuss my favorite book on this subject. I’ve mentioned this book a few times on this show already. It is called “Kneeling in Spirit.  Disabled Submissives” and it is edited by Raven Kaldera. Raven Kaldera has authored 42 books on many topics including M/s and Power Exchange, Spirituality and Disabilities. Links are below for Raven’s author page on Amazon and his disability focused books through Alfred Press. 

Amazon link for Raven Kaldera: https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3ARaven+Kaldera&s=relevancerank&text=Raven+Kaldera&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1

 https://alfredpress.com/category/disability/

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a blue background on the left, there is the following text in white letters “Let’s Talk Books “Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives”. On the right, there is a photo of Angela sitting in a red chair reading with a purple background, with her face covered by the book cover of Kneeling in Spirit, Disabled Submissives.]

Full transcript of this episode is available. Listen to this episode and/or read the transcript at the link below.

https://disirabilityalt.castos.com/player/260206

©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020

Are Kinky People Mentally Ill? Episode 12 of DISIRability ALT

In Episode 12 of DISIRabilityALT, I discuss mental health and alternative relationships, particularly talking about kink, polyamory and mental health.  I share some of the history and changes made by the American Psychological Association regarding BDSM. I will also share my thoughts and experiences around my own mental health with you and how kink and my power exchange dynamic have actually helped improve my mental health.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the letter b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a purple/blue background, there is the following text in white letters “Episode 12. Are Kinky People Mentally Ill, Angela Car, 18+”. On the right, there is a photo of a few eggs in a dish with faces painted on them showing different emotions, smiling, sad, angry, confused.]

Full Transcription of the Podcast is also available!

Love Abilities Festival

In This Life and All Hereafter

Episode 8 of DISIRability ALT on Cartaking, Loss and Grief is available now!

For today’s episode, we’re going to talk about a difficult topic. Most shows on alternative relationships talk about the fun aspects. Today, we are going to talk about something that many long-term alternative relationships will face at some point. Today, we are going to address caretaking, grief and loss. Join Angela Car as she shares her story of changing caretaking roles, and shares her experience with grief and anticipatory grief.

Episode Cover Description [DISIRability logo in green with a wheelchair symbol in place of the b. “ALT” written in black underneath. In a tan background, there is the writing “Caretaking, Grief and Loss”. On the left-hand side, there is the text: in Alt relationships. With angela car [she/her] 18+.  On the right, there is a photo of Angela’s memorial tattoo which states “In this life and all hereafter”, which were in her husband’s wedding vows to her.]

Listen or Read the Full transcript of this episode at this link:

http://disirabilityalt.castos.com


©DISIRability, Angela Car 2020